Dee Hathaway

Guess who went to yoga class at the gym today… go ahead, guess.

Nope. It was me. (how could you miss that?)

You might know that I am a little bit obsessed with the gym; you know, the whole 4:30 in the morning thing every stinking day thing. Well I decided that the trainer wasn’t beating up on me enough (crap, I hope she doesn’t read this.. you’re plenty tough there trainer!) so I should make myself feel sore and awkward in new kinds of ways. Yoga, or spin (eenie meenie..) Well, I’ve at least done yoga before, and, as a guy,nobody would be be surprised if I sucked at it (can do) and didn’t really want to embarrass myself on a bike. So yoga class was it.

It was a whole new experience for me going to the gym to take a class. I mean, me with other people? What’s up with that? What has gotten into me lately? It came as no surprise that I was the only male yoga-ster there. But the ladies welcomed me quite warmly (I put on my best non-creepy face) and I picked a spot in the middle of the room. And they turned down the lights (thank you!)

I actually found that it was extremely fun. I really did enjoy the class. Mostly. I knew a good share of the.. poses?.. positions? (I really am new to this) and found that all the work over the past months has paid off fairly well (I can plank now, anyway). Some of the positions towards the end were a little bit… too much for me, but mostly I didn’t get into anything I wasn’t able to untwist myself from.

I did find a couple of things about yoga that really tie in with what I’ve been going through lately; with what we have been going through lately (cuz you’re on this journey with me!) And I would like to share them with you now. (It’s okay. not scary. keep reading.)

One of the first things the instructor had us do was set our intention. I thought that was pretty cool. Could be intention for the session, the week, the life… who knows? And one of the last things was to focus on that intention and let all the negativity and stress and bad stuff drop away… just focus on the intention. (it’s like she’d been reading this blog!)

Which got me thinking (you knew that was coming)… how do people put lie on their stomach with their left foot under them and reach over their body with their right had and grab that foot? That just seems impossible to me. I’m not supposed to bend like that! (I have bones, you know)

OK. It actually got me thinking a little about intentions and focus. I know I’ve covered a little bit about each of those before, but today somebody said something to me that I really liked. Something about loving things that are good for you (sorry, can’t remember the exact quote here)… but it was awesome.

Sidetrack over. That was really the point at which I tied together the thought for the day (thought for the day will NOT be a regular feature on stalkdee.comdeehathaway.com)

I love the power of intention. The law of attraction. (and my own law of distraction) I think it is very powerful and, if you read yesterday’s post, you know that I think you can set your own path by it. Also from yesterday was the focus. Once you have set that intention, focus on it. This is not a set it and forget kinda thing here.

And the big difference in why things are rolling for me is because I expect them to. That is the third corner of my little success pyramid (much more delicious than the food pyramid).

Set your intention. Focus on it. Expect it.

A few months back I set my intentions on health and happiness… I’ve been focusing on it… I expect it (and I’ve been getting it)… and the more I get the more I expect. (okay, let’s move on before I just repeat what I already poste… sometimes repetition is not our friend)

I intend to keep loving those things that are good for me. (cuz its okay to do that sometimes) I intend to spend more time with you (yes you, we still have a lot to teach each other, you and I)… but enough about me.

Let’s intend to be thrilled more and cause more thrills (have you been for a ride in the race car?) and spend more time being happy… find more joy and more beauty and more abundance, and pass those on to others who are ready. Let’s focus on the good things, and keep them in mind all the time. It’ll work. Expect it.

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Did you see that moonrise last night?! Wow, talk about gorgeous! Seeing the moonrise over the mountains like that, with the beautiful Arizona spring weather, well it makes you want to just sit in the porch swing and stare at the sky for a while.

So I did.  Well, I was actually in the car.  And I stared up at that full moon and into an impossibly big sky and started thinking (you should expect that to happen somewhere around the second or third paragraph by now)… and I came up with a few thoughts that I’d like to share.

1. Full moons are better if you have someone to share them with
2. Penguins are cute
3. Werewolves have it right; the full moon can make you crazy
4. Anything is possible

You should be with me on items 1-3 (if not, you can always submit a comment or hit the Contact Dee and let me know… would it kill you to write once in a while? you probably never call your mother either..) So let me talk a little bit about where I get anything is possible out of staring at the night sky.

Have you ever just stared up at all the stars in the sky? I don’t necessarily mean when there is a full moon, but more like when there is a new moon. And it’s all dark. And you are there on the trampoline or some cool grass or something, just staring in wonder at the night. It seem so vast. So unchanging. So much so that people base their lives by what is written in the stars. “it’s written in the stars” indicates the unchangingness (hey, my blog. I’ll make up words if I want to). Even I have my own little horoscope hangups. I get a horoscope feed sent into my newsreader on the ol’ smartphone (cuz I am the geekness), but I won’t read the horoscope until the next day. Yup. I won’t read today’s horoscope until today is gone.

((Dee. You’re crazy.))

I’m not taking the chance of reading that I’m going to have a bad day and having that get into my skull and causing a bad day. I just think that things happen more because of what we believe than what is set in the stars. We think the stars are fixed in the sky, but they’re not. Even “fixed stars” are not. You should by now at least be familiar with my unlimited outcomes theory, in which every possibility exists. That doesn’t really play well with making decisions based on how the stars are aligned, when every choice will happen anyway. (and right now you can’t decide if I’m deep or full of it)

So how is it that Dee Hathaway knows what to do? Well I’m so glad you asked (cuz it fits so nicely into the post)

I don’t. I have no idea what to do. But I do believe that things are going to work out and that things are going to be all right. (because everything is going to be all right) And so far things have worked out and things are all right.

We have to let ‘fate’ know what direction we want to go. We can do whatever we want to do, all we have to do is make the choice.  With that choice, we choose our own path (our own ‘destiny’, I suppose).  And the things that are supposed to happen on that path will.  Every choice you have made has led you to where you are now.

It’s not as important whether you turn right or left (turn left I say!) as it is that you pick a direction and move. I chart my course based on what I believe to be the right thing. The course that will lead to happiness and health and beauty. I don’t spend a lot of time worrying about the mistakes I’ve made or what future obstacles may appear because:

1. worry brings worry (see the whole success breeds success post from last time)
2. life is about finding joy (rapture, jubilation – sorry…melodrama)
3. you get what you focus on

So focus on the things you want. Focus on success. Focus on me! But mostly, focus on your own happiness. That is what is most important. Sailors chart their course by the stars; chart your course by your heart. And let’s travel this path together…


pretty ironic to pick “keeper of the stars” after trashing horoscopes, isn’t it?

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I’m not sure if you are aware of it or not, but I’ve kinda been on a roll. Not so much a kaiser roll, or even a cinnamon roll, but more like a things are really workin’ out for me roll. And I’ve got to tell you, this roll is delicious!

Why do I say that? Well, just you go back and read all of the archives and old posts here. Go ahead.. I’ll wait. Go.

You didn’t read them did you… that’s okay. I’m going to tell you anyway (but if you did go back and read them all, I do apologize and promise to be more entertaining).

A few months ago I had decided that it was time for me to get myself back to myself. To get my bod shape, get my career in shape, get my life in shape and start being all the Dee that I can Dee be.

One of the first things I set into motion there was to start writing. I started doing that by getting together some things about which I would like to write (because that’s so much easier than doing any actual writing). And then, after the googling incident, I just started writing. And kept writing. And the writing, in my humble opinion, keeps getting easier, more inspired and maybe a little more meaningful. (oh that muse has been SO busy!) And certainly I’ve become much more humble.

My work has become a wonderful place for me again. I’ve always enjoyed the people I work with, but there have been times quite recently when I was ready to walk. But with the change in me came a change in attitude there too. Now every day is more productive and more fun than the previous. Projects are coming together, I’m learning a lot and the time is just flying by. Sometimes I spend the whole day at the big keyboard typing away (and I actually get stuff done!)…

And the melodrama was absolutely wonderful (I just had to bring that up).

And now I’m finding that the better things get, the better things get. (don’t be hatin’) There are days when I just think things can’t possibly get any better, and then they get better. And things just keep rolling like that for me. And I really love coming here to tell you about it, and I consider you to be a great part of this success. For you have given me the outlet, and with that the ability to put my intentions out for the things that I want. I’m finding more and more that it isn’t my job to worry about how things are going to happen; it’s my job to let it be known that I want it. And to appreciate it when it is delivered; when it is given and certainly when it is returned. It’s fate’s job (or the universe or whatever you call it) to make it happen (but I will help when I can!)

Even Abraham agrees with me (you knew that was coming didn’t you)

Every time you say, “I appreciate that. I really like that. I applaud that. I acknowledge the value in that.” Every time you do that, you spend some of your Energy, and it is the spending of the Energy that creates a vacuum, so to speak, or an attraction, so to speak, that draws more and more and more and more.

So I find myself in a ‘law of attraction’ walk in the park (or drive through the park, if you are lucky enough to be in the race car)… where what I want seems to want me too. (that.is.awesome). So let me say to you, oh things that I want… I appreciate you. I like you. I applaud you. And I certainly acknowledge your value in my life. (now where is that more and more and more and more?)

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I decided that it was time for a haircut. I know, I just got a haircut (I try to do that every 10 years or so). The current hair was getting a little too “feathery” and a whole lot too out of control. So I thought maybe a trim, just to take some of the ‘flip’ off the end.

So I trudge up the road (beautiful day for a drive) to the haircut place (Great Clips, if you must know) where there is a… person who cuts hair… who came highly recommended. And I have my picture of Josh Holloway (if you close one eye and have the sun in the other and squint really hard and use your imagination, I still look nothing like him. But he has really good hair), which I give to the stylist and tell her “I want hair like this”, to which she replies “well, you have it already”. (OK, these people work for tips, right? Cuz that was awesome). I probably should have just left then.

I explain that yes, my hair is awesome (it’s no secret), but it’s too feathery and I need it to look more… Sawyerish… and less… Farrah-riffic. No problem, she assures me, have a seat. and the hair starts flying. And there was trimming and razoring and scissoring and a little bit of crying (that was me) and then she said “you’re very concerned about your hair, aren’t you”. What? Me? Evidently I looked pretty nervous. It might have been when she stated that there was sure a lot of hair on the floor that I got nervous.

We chatted about the family and Hawaii and then she said “so… you’re Laura’s dad?”. Well, yes I am (and proud of it). “But you look so young.” (OK, these people work for tips, right? Cuz that was awesome). That would have made my day, had it not already been made.

It turns out that I need to use a different “product” in my hair (I don’t know how the ladies do it – too many choices) to make it look like I don’t do anything with it. Let me get this straight; to make my hair look like I don’t do anything with it, I have to put more stuff in it. Uh-huh

It turns out that there was a BUNCH of my hair on the floor. And now I’m bald. OK, so not bald, but the hair is much shorter than I had anticipated… fortunately it really looks the way I wanted it to (albeit a little shorter). Evidently sometimes you have to cut a bunch off to get it to grow out to be what you want. I know this post is long ((yah, we know dee, we’ve been sleeping for the last 4 paragraphs)), but I have finally gotten to the moral of the story. Which is not (believe it or not) that I have fantastic hair (though we all know it’s true).

I started thinking about how sometimes you have to give something up to get something you want… like getting your hair cut a little shorter than you want so that it grow back like you want. Or getting up at 4:30 every morning to go to the gym (giving up sleep to get better health and that finely sculpted body… hey I’m workin’ on it)… and then I ran out of examples. I’m not really the give something up to get something else kind of guy. I’m more of a ‘set your intention and wait for it to happen’ kind of guy. (but that’s a different post) Hey.. I got you didn’t I?

And the hair looks very good, btw.


There just aren’t any really good hair songs.

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this will have to serve as a teaser, cuz I haven’t had a minute with the big keyboard… You’ll get a real post (or what passes for that here) as soon as I can get untangled. But here’s a preview of future funnage, if not the next post.

The main event has never been the manifestation; the main event has always been the way you feel moment by moment, because that’s what life is.

— Abraham

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