So. There’s something you really need to know. I mean really. “cause this will save us all a lot of embarrassment later, especially if you remember what I’m about to tell (write) you.
If you’re ever at Casa de Hathaway (or Casa Dee Hathaway, as the casa may be) and you’re occupying one of the several “facilities’ we have here, make sure you close the door securely or Newfish will be pulling the door open and creeping in on you. That cat ain’t right.
Phew! I’m so glad we got that out of the way! Now then, on with the post!
I’m not sure if you know this (because you might be one of those who like to sleep in), but I occasionally roll out of bed before… well before anyone in their right mind would roll out of bed… and get to the gym at 5(ish). I gotta tell ya, that’s not an easy thing to do in the winter, when the sun is also sleeping in late.
A couple of mornings ago was just such a morning, and after freezing my patooties off for the 5 minute walk to the gym in this sub-40 weather (it’s hard to be me), I stumbled into the gym, set the treadmill speed to ‘moderately motivated zombie’, started up my C25K (you wish that were diamond related, but it’s an exercise thing) and getting my Netflix set up. I really like to have the Netflix/Pandora set up because it keeps people from talking to me (that and the grump-face and general bad attitude). It’s not just that I’m so shy, it’s also that I don’t like people talking to me at 5 in the morning (or 6 or 8). It’s for their own safety.
While I was watching the little “loading” symbol on Netflix, I could hear the guys on the treadmills behind me talking about… stuff… I think it was a house one of the dudes was trying to buy… and I heard him say “but we’re trying not to get our hopes up”. Well that got me thinking (still happens occasionally)…
- When’s the last time I had bacon?
- Why would you not want to get your hopes up?
- Why is it that I don’t ever have to ‘go’ until I get to the gym?!? What am I… 5?
For purposes of our time here together, I’ve decided to focus a little bit on #2. (not as it relates to item number 3, but on it’s own).
Where did that phrase come from? “I’m trying not to get my hopes up.”
I don’t understand using that phrase. I looked it up online (just now) and that phrase is usually used when something is not likely to happen. So it seems like it’s OK under very few circumstances, such as:
- I really want to breathe underwater, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up.
- I’m going to try to carry a battleship ‘cross country next spring, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up.
- I really want to have better hair than Dee Hathaway, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up.
These are things that are not likely going to happen, so I think it’s OK to not get your hopes up. (seriously, have you seen my hair lately?) But if you’re hoping something is going to happen, why wouldn’t you get your hopes up?? This is how you get things that you want.
There are so many quotes I could throw out now, such as “if you can dream it, you can achieve it” and “once you choose hope, anything is possible” and “it does not suck to be Dee Hathaway” and “hope ends when you stop believing”, but the simple truth according to moi is that you can have anything you choose. Hope, Dream, Love, Believe, Desire… it’s all the same. It’s all intention, and you get what you focus on (voice of experience here!). And hope is a really good place to start.
The phrase “it does not suck to be Dee Hathaway” is made purely of hope. There have been so many times in my life that I’ve adopted the attitude of “fake it ’til you make it”, which is nothing more than saying I hope I can do this. And there have been very, very few times when I’ve truly hoped for something, when I’ve seen what I want and put myself out there 100%, when I haven’t gotten what I want. Most of getting what you want is knowing what it is that you want.
So here’s what we’re gonna do, mkay? We’re going to get our hopes up. For a better world, for those we love, and for ourselves. And we’re going to tell people, especially each other, that we have hope. And we’ll do that even more often when it seems that hope is all we have.
And right now I hope you always find a reason to smile. And I hope I can sometimes be that reason. I always have hope. 🙂
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